It may be difficult for the mind of this century to understand the relationship between our parents who were married in the early years of the 1950s. They met on the Air Force base where my father was a staff sergeant. My mother worked as a civilian on base. Daddy claimed it was love at first sight and that he had already informed the family back home that he had met the girl that he was going to marry. Only after that announcement did he ask Mama on a date.
Daddy eventually left the Air Force to enter the business world. Mama took a job as a legal secretary for a little while. By the time the third daughter arrived in 1960, they made a mutual decision. Three children did not make it cost effective for Mama to work outside the home. She turned her office skills into home organizational skills. She also became the family accountant.
The monetary relationship was simple. Daddy would bring home his pay check at the end of the week. He gave it to Mama to distribute the proceeds according to the needs of the family. It wasn’t that Daddy was incapable of handling the money; he simply learned that she was very good at the job and decided to delegate. They communicated on a regular basis about needs, wants and line item caps. That sometimes made it difficult to surprise Mama when the Christmas budget was discussed.
In one particular year Daddy informed Mama that he was going to save money by making her present. Weeks went by and the project had not been started. Five days remained until Christmas and nothing seemed to be happening. The hand-made gift was part of quick, over the fence conversations that sprang up as the ladies in the neighborhood hung the laundry to freeze-dry on the line.
The morning of Christmas Eve arrived and Daddy announced it was time to begin the project. He enlisted the help of a neighbor and excitement began to build as paper was taped over the door to the utility room so that curious family members and neighbors would not get a peek at the creation. First the sound of hammer to nail was heard. Then muffled conversation came through the wall that connected the bathroom to the utility space. Then silence.
The door opened and a request was sent to have a pot of fresh coffee put on the stove. The family was instructed not to bring the cups of coffee to the work station, as was the routine for coffee service in the household. Instead, someone would return in a few minutes. The door closed again and the whirring of a drill started and stopped. Started and stopped. Started and stopped.
As planned, the courier arrived at the backdoor and coffee was served. He moved quickly between the warmth of the kitchen and the unheated work space. The door shut and the muffled conversation continued. The extended break included a second cup of coffee. Finally, the door closed and the drilling resumed.
Unable to determine what was being created, Mama gave up trying to figure it out, but not before quipping, “Whatever it is, it’s going to have a lot of holes in it.”
By afternoon, the gift emerged. It was such an odd shape that it could not be wrapped as a proper package. Instead it had been placed in a box and wrapped in funny paper. Dagwood & Blondie and the Family Circus crew stood out among the snowmen and Santa Clauses adorning other packages under the Christmas tree. Everyone was cautioned not to touch the box, especially the top, since the wrapping was fragile.
The next morning we paused to watch Mama open her gift. Less than two-feet tall, sixteen inches to be exact, the Little Money Tree was the strangest sight we had ever seen on the 25th of December. It had sprouted to its ultimate size less than 24 hours before; but the seed of the unusual tree had been planted in autumn.
We listened as Daddy’s story unfolded. He wanted to do something special for Mama, an ultimate surprise. Many weeks before Christmas he began holding on to some of his weekly “lunch money”, which Mama would distribute on Sunday evening or Monday morning. He counted his savings the week before Christmas and took the money to the bank where he asked the teller to exchange the amount for brand new $1.00 bills. He had already determined that the crisp bills would fit better into the holes on the trunk of the tree. He finished the tale by reminding Mama that the money was to be spent on something for herself and not to be put back into the family budget.
She struggled with that request until she finally admitted that she had secretly wanted a dress coat. She was particularly fond of the Chesterfield-style coat for ladies. The fun continued after Christmas as she perused the papers for the best sales. Christmas didn’t end that year until Mama modeled her brand-new coat.